Five point plan re possible disputes:

• Before involving a third party such as the Bolton Tennis Committee, have you eliminated the possibility of discussing your concerns/problems with the other club? Ask to be invited to one of their  meetings or consult the secretary.
• If you have to involve a third party. Keep it impersonal. Talk about the club or member (s) of the clubs. Names are not always needed unless requested.
• Check what you have written. Would you be happy for the other club to read it?
• Check what you have written again. Around 20 committee members may end up with it on their computers. Of course its confidential. So are items leaked from parliament.
• If you have 'cocked up' and you need to apologise, make it unconditional. "If I am wrong, then I apologise." is not an apology, it is quite the opposite.

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